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Sex toys and you

Published: November 3, 2006
Section: Arts, Etc.

Whats the deal with sex toys?

Sex toys are sometimes glamorized for their association with sexual liberation, sometimes seen as dirty and scandalous, but may also be viewed by some as a symbol of sexual incompetence. What people might not realize is that sex toys can be sexy and glamorous, and they can be scandalous (if you want them to be). And they can also be a great way to enhance personal and partner sex.

So, why use sex toys? Sex toys are great for people who are trying to figure out how to orgasm. For many, reaching climax is an issue of comfort. Using toys on your own can be a great way to better understand your body and what it takes to make you comfortable and turn you on. For those who are already experienced, sex toys can also be a great way to add some pizzazz to your masturbation routine.

Sex toys can also be a great way to enhance partner play and there are even toys made specifically for this purpose. Many people fear that introducing sex toys will either offend their partner or make their partner feel insecure. However, sex toys are very different from the feeling of a partner;

they are an enhancement to partner play. If your partner feels uncomfortable, perhaps a good way to get things started is to go shopping for toys together. This way you pick a toy you are both comfortable bringing to the bedroom (or kitchen, or living room).

It is important to note that there are sex toys designed for any orifice, any body, and any type of play, so its good to take this into consideration when looking to purchase. Do you get turned off by intense vibrations? Do you need a nice curve to reach your G-spot? Would you prefer an anal plug with some weight or girth? Are you looking for toys to tease?

Sex toys also come in a wide variety of shapes. It is important to take time and think about which appearance and shape would best enhance your pleasure and comfort. Also, not all sex toys are designed to look like genitalia. Often they are just colorful shapes or animals.

Depending on preference and allergies, you can find them made from all different kinds of materials, but be sure to know how to care for them. In general, its best to use a condom to keep them clean and safe, especially if they are being shared or used in multiple orifices.

Perhaps the most commonly seen sex toys might be bullet vibes and the standard plastic, phallic-shaped vibrators. There is also the Sex in the City episode which introduced many to the popular rabbit-habit vibe. Although these vibrators are the most well known, there are all different kinds of toys that vibrate. In the realm of internal vibrators there are ones that rotate, hop, shake, rattle, and roll. There are also vibrating cock-rings, anal plugs, anal beads, clitoral toys, external vibes, nipple clamps, and toys for water play. The list of toys could go on forever, but some important types to note are anal toys, toys for sensation play (e.g. feathers, chains, clamps and cuffs), and toys meant for bondage. The point is that toys might be intimidating, but if there is something you are interested in, theres probably a toy for you.